River Elliot told me this morning that today is Transgender Day of Visibility. Since this is a hot topic, I have a few thoughts I would like to share.
Most people do not understand the experience of being transgender or even what it means. And you know what, they don’t need to understand it because it is not their experience. I should not expect them to understand it entirely unless they are transgender themselves.
That being said, we transgender people have a responsibility(not legally or philosophically, but ethically) to no give them a wrong idea about what it means to be transgender. I keep this in mind in my daily life because I am probably the only transgender person most people in Independence Missouri will know. Most are not as open about it as I am and prefer to remain secret and just blend in.
The purpose of the hormones and surgeries that transgender people undergo is for the purpose of blending in to reduce stress from those who hate them and also to reduce dysphoria about body parts that feel foreign to them like they belong to someone else. This is something that I fully support and agree with.
At the same time, there are things that the so called “Trans Community” does which I do not approve of.
A commonly discussed topic recently is transwomen competing in women’s sports. There are some serious problems. I should know better than most people as does former athlete Caitlyn Jenner that those who have experience male puberty often do have a huge strength and speed difference.
At this time I will not make the statement that they should not be able to compete in women’s sports because I think these things should be handled on a case by case basis for each sport individually. For example, I consider chess to be a sport but it is of the mind and not a physical nature and does not apply.
But I do have a request of trans athletes. Even if you can compete, please don’t. You’re adding fuel to the fire of those who already hate us for a variety of their own personal or religious motivations. It’s hard enough for most people who are transgender to live and work in their daily life. Most of them have it much harder than I do. I have a supportive environment at work and I have not experienced physical violence like many other have.
That said, I have experienced rejection by people who do not understand. I am okay with this because those who have a problem with my living my honest life are not my friends anyway.
But the existence of transgender people does raise many personal, social, religious, and political topics. And these topics will be debated as long as the human race exists.
Perhaps one of the more important things that many think of are the religious implications. People may ask, does God make mistakes? Does God send transgender people to hell for rebellion against his design? Or are transgender people instead part of God’s design in the first place and so many religious people have completely missed a chance to love people just as they have the non human animals which they continue to kill and eat and then have the nerve to thank God for food that was a living being and was not food at all.
I have many thoughts on these various topics and will respond to any questions people may ask me, but the short answer which always is true, is that it’s complicated. Nobody knows this more than Honesty the Unicorn who talked to me in my dreams on many occasions and still does on an almost daily basis. For more information on that, I have a series of books which document my experience with some of these topics I have mentioned.
My hope is that my books will educated people about those who are transgender and/or have experienced sexual abuse or have been unable to know what to believe in after they have been cast out of their religion for being trans, gay, or whatever other abnormality they did not choose to be.
But aside from that, I will continue to write or record whatever I need to explain these things to people. Ask me anything and I can point you in the right direction.