I want to write about a very serious topic. For some time I have been mystified by people who are seemingly fearful or hateful of transgender and/or gay people.
I believe that these fears come both from the hearts of evil people who do not know any longer who they are capable of raping. After all, if you are a male rapist who tries to rape a woman only to find out that she is a transgender woman but has enough male muscle to overpower you, then you’re probably going to die.
The solution? Don’t rape people.
On the flip side, there is also a genuine fear of some people that they will be raped. I believe this is behind the fears of transgender people in the bathrooms or locker rooms of their preferred gender. Cisgender females are afraid of transgender women because they see them as males and because biological males have the reputation of being the majority of rapists, they fear having them near.
The situation is even more complicated for transgender men because they would be in more danger if they were around bio males with bad intentions.
But there is a much larger problem that is being overlooked and not talked about. People can be raped or sexually assaulted by those of their same biological sex. So nobody know who is going to rape them while at the same time nobody knows who they are capable of raping because that’s largely just a matter of physical strength.
A group of ten biological females could easily overpower a biological male. Or maybe just two of them if that male has not been eating his veggies lately.
In contrast with the fears of being raped, transgender people as well as homosexuals have their own struggles of trying to live their lives and being misunderstood. I would say that the majority of them pose no threat to anyone but all it takes is one of then setting a bad example and then panic arises. In spite of the fact that the majority of all crimes have been committed by the cisgender heterosexual people, people instead have misplaced fears about transgender people or gay people when they are probably more likely to get attacked by a member of a majority group.
The thing is that cisgender heterosexuals will ALWAYS be the majority of the population. This is because they can reproduce because they have straight sex and have not been sterilized by surgery or hormones like transgender people have been.
Sometimes people are born gay or transgender. For whatever the various causes are, some people will just never be “normal”. I have been investigating the causes of this for some time and so far the evidence points to having extra chromosomes or unusual hormone levels while developing inside their mother before birth.
I don’t usually talk about all of these things in such specific details but I have had these thoughts on my mind as I try ti understand my own experiences.
And for the record, up to this point in my life I have only always used men’s restrooms and changing rooms. It’s what I’m used to and so I stick with it because I don’t want to make other people uncomfortable who do not understand the complex issues as I’ve described in this post.
But what I can tell you is that my first time around a group of naked men was when I was in the Navy. It was terrifying and was part of what led to me having a mental breakdown and being discharged. And I’ve never talked about it like this before but you’ll have to take my word for it when I tell you that I truly know fear.
And the last thing I want is for anyone to be afraid of me. But those who truly know me are aware that I am the least violent person you will ever meet. I am a vegan after all.
I am learning many new things through my gender transition. With all the knowledge I have gained I know that I will be dedicating my life to helping other LGBTQIA people in the ways that I can.