While it would be easy to write a chapter for each of the unique problems the LGBTQIA community faces every day of their lives, I want to focus instead on where the hatred and discrimination really stem from.
Of course, it would be easy to place the blame on religion and say that it is only because of outdated and mistranslated holy texts. This avoids the issue and pushes it back a step rather than questioning why the religions became anti-gay.
Instead, I propose a new theory that ties the discrimination against Gay, Transgender, and Asexual people.
Did you know that Asexual people are sometimes raped because people want to “correct” them or because they are seen as a challenge to get them to have sex because they are not interested?
Indeed, some people dislike Gay, Transgender, and Asexual people for a common reason. This reason is because these groups are the least likely to reproduce.
A gay couple of the same sex cannot get anyone pregnant by having sex with the same sex.
A transgender person, more often than not, takes hormones that diminish their sexual desire and, in many cases, even has surgery to remove their sex organs.
An asexual person is very unlikely to have sex because it doesn’t interest them.
Because these people don’t reproduce at the same rate as heterosexuals, some people have an irrational fear that the human race will go extinct because straight sex will stop happening. That plot would make a great science fiction movie that won’t happen.
But I have another theory about this that explains why some people have a financial incentive to keep the population as high as they can. Therefore, they see it as their duty to eliminate anyone who is not heterosexual or cisgender.
If you think about it, the very rich, especially business owners, benefit by having a large population.
More customers means more products sold.
More competition for the limited available jobs means employers can always find desperate people willing to work for low wages yet feel grateful for having a job.
More poverty and unhappy people lead to more crime. Then they can be killed or jailed to eliminate the “undesirables”.
More people means there are more people to tax and otherwise exploit for financial gain.
If somebody wanted to keep the population high, they would try to do the following:
Ban or limit all forms of birth control.
Eliminate the LGBTQIA population and promote heterosexual marriage and sex.
Ban surgeries that sterilize people.
Relevant Links about declining birthrates
I have included some links to stories about how the rich view the declining birthrate.
More research is needed in this area, but the statements of some of the most famous rich people are very revealing. The poor are less likely to reproduce due to a lack of money to take care of themselves, even without children. The rich see a high population as an endless flow of customers and cheap labor. The concerns over climate change are also a concern for many people who don’t see a planet being left for their children to live in if they did bring them into this world.
Summary
Because of an interest in preserving the population and/or keeping lots of people here for economic reasons, homosexual, asexual, and transgender people are seen as inherently anti-human because they do not, by nature, create more humans by reproduction. This concern about the birthrate creates a fear in the public that acceptance of LGBTQIA topics to be allowed in society will result in either a decline in population or extinction if people are convinced to become gay or celibate.
This theory is the only secular reasoning I can come up with as to why such a large portion of the population has not accepted those of us with different sexual orientations or gender identities. However, the religious objections are more often in the spotlight and will be the subject of another chapter.
The first step towards acceptance of the LGBTQIA community is to build the Rainbow Bridge. There are two main sides to the debate over equal rights for the Rainbow people.
Side A is the people who are themselves lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, or Asexual. We know who we are, and it’s easy to forget that others may not have had the same experiences as us. We have many words that we know what they mean, but others outside our community may not. In short, the Rainbow people are basically like computer programmers because 90% of people have no idea what we are talking about. Also, the reason I say we in this paragraph is because I am part of the LGBTQIA community. Specifically, I am the T and the A.
Side B are the people who happen to be Cisgender and Heterosexual. The majority of people are this way. They simply accept that if their body is male or female, then that is what they must be. They also only seek to date, marry, or have sex with someone of the opposite sex because they have never felt any attraction to the same sex. Because they have never needed to question the gender roles and stereotypes, they never needed to think about it deeply. Then, when they meet someone from the LGBTQIA community, they wonder what is wrong with them.
The ability to understand that other people do not have access to the same information as us is called Theory of Mind. There is no easy fix for the fact that straight and gay people are not the same. However, it is still pretty easy to realize that a gay man is attracted to men just as a straight woman is. A lesbian (term for a gay woman) is attracted to women the same way a straight man is. At least parallels and comparisons can be made in this case.
Cisgender and Transgender people are also not the same. In fact, they are more different than gay and straight people. It can also be easy to forget that being Transgender has absolutely nothing to do with sexuality at all. It is a state of mind where our brain and/or soul tell us where we fall on the gender spectrum. Because of this, it is more difficult to bridge the gap about this topic. I will, of course, do my best because this is my experience, but I also welcome the input of others who can explain it better than I can.
But if there is any group in the whole LGBTQIA acronym that is the most misunderstood, it is the ‘I’, which stands for Intersex. Intersex people fall outside the male or female BIOLOGICALLY. Being Intersex is a fact about your physical body and is not about identity or sexual attraction. The problem is that many people do not know that Intersex people exist. Even one of my best friends told me that everyone is either male or female. But considering things like Klinefelter Syndrome (XXY chromosomes), androgen insensitivity, and those born with both a penis and a vagina, I dare anyone to decide which of the two sexes these people are.
My statement on Intersex identity is that only the person who lives in that body can tell us who they are. For example, I have a dear friend who I admire greatly and who is intersex. She identifies as a woman and aligns with a female gender identity despite having XY chromosomes. In that regard, the same standard of self-identification applies to Intersex people just the same as it does to Transgender people. So please, don’t tell people who they are because you are not them. That is like telling a child who wants to make music that they must instead become a carpenter and that they are not allowed to play an instrument or sing.
And finally, the Asexual community is perhaps the most controversial within the community because we often fight over two competing definitions of what Asexuality means. This topic will be covered in its entire chapter.
I am qualified to speak from my own experience on Transgender and Asexual identity because it is my own experience. However, just because I am the author does not mean that those of L, G, B, and Q cannot contribute their own experiences. If you would like to join me in future updates to this book with personal stories or allegories that explain your experience, I can include them and give you credit.
Remember, the goal is to build the Rainbow Bridge. I can’t do it alone. We are in this together. We can help educate the cisgender, straight people on what our words mean rather than merely calling them homophobic or transphobic and then cutting off communication.
Also, for the record, a phobia is a fear, not hatred. Can you blame the “normal” people if they are a little bit afraid of us? After all, some of us look really strange and use big words that these people have never heard in their lives. Some of them are open to learning and will accept us, but the process of building the bridge begins with us.
Bodily autonomy is a phrase that is often used by the Pro-Choice movement. The basic premise is that a woman should have a choice over their own body, even to the point where she is allowed to abort her child that she is pregnant with. Obviously, Pro-Life people like me disagree with this. However, rarely do people actually discuss the value of bodily autonomy and what it means.
To the Pro-Life Movement, Bodily Autonomy is just a red flag warning them with the message, “Oh, it’s one of those people who are trying to use the number one argument for why abortion should be legal and/or moral.”
To the Pro-Choice movement, Bodily Autonomy is a talking point that sidesteps the question of whether abortion is murder, whether the embryo, fetus, or “contents of pregnancy” is valuable, or whether it is a human being deserving legal protection.
However, I believe that a proper understanding of bodily autonomy requires it to be studied in a context outside of abortion. For this, we have two main issues that we can use for comparison.
LGBTQIA Rights
In the context of LGBTQIA, rights could include but are not limited to, a person choosing which sexual partner they have and being free from rape, which is the most obvious violation of a person’s body. It could also include a transgender person having the right to modify their body via hormones, surgery, or simply wearing different clothes that help them feel more aligned with what their brain tells them their body should look and feel like. Last but not least, it could include the right of intersex people not to have surgery done on them as a baby that doctors or parents believe will “correct” what they assume is a birth defect. In simple terms, if a baby is born with both a penis and a vagina, don’t attempt to remove either and let them decide when they are older which parts to keep or remove. Babies cannot consent to surgery because they can’t even talk yet. The tradition of infant male circumcision is also relevant here in the context of Bodily Autonomy but is not specific to just trans or intersex people.
Vaccine Choice
Some people have imposed Vaccine Mandates that require people to either take a certain vaccine or be fired from their jobs, removed from their housing, or not allowed to attend school or events without proof of vaccination. Therefore, a discussion of Bodily Autonomy must include the right to choose what vaccines you take in your body or not.
Examples:
Since Donald Trump was inaugurated as President on January 20, 2025, he has signed many executive orders. There are some that I agree with. For example, on January 27, 2025, he signed an executive order which reinstates everyone who was discharged from the military for refusing the Covid-19 vaccines. I consider this a good move because I don’t want anybody to lose their job just because they choose what they will and will not put into their body. I fully believe in Bodily Autonomy when it comes to a person deciding what to eat, what vaccines to take or not take, and what they wear, Et cetera. Therefore, I believe that Donald Trump has the right position when it comes to respecting this type of Bodily Autonomy.
Also, it may be relevant to note that Trump also freed 23 prisoners who were arrested for non-violent protests outside abortion clinics. This action is just one more example of something I think Trump did right. He seems to show by his actions that he cares about Freedom of Speech as well as the Bodily Autonomy of the babies not to be murdered.
However, there are other actions by Donald Trump that I believe violate the Bodily Autonomy of Transgender and Intersex people.
For example, in one of his executive orders, Trump has declared that the Federal Government of the United States of America will only recognize two genders, male and female. To the uninformed, this sounds harmless because most people think there are only two genders. But is it true? The answer is more complicated than you think.
There have been many attempts to define what males and females are. This task gets harder to do the more you learn. The simple fact is that intersex people exist who have more than the standard chromosome variations of XX or XY. There are people with XXY, XXYY, and XYY, and some only have a single X chromosome. Defining sex/gender on chromosomes is not reliable and can actually be expensive. I am 37 years old, and I don’t know my chromosome variation, but I suspect XXY, also known as Klinefelter syndrome.
The other way people usually define male or female is by looking at someone’s genitals and then labeling them as male if they have a penis and female if they have a vagina. Usually this is done to newborn babies who are assigned male or female at birth. However, this is also not reliable. Some people are born with more than one set of genitals. But the larger point is that we should let people’s “private parts” remain private.
My primary concerns are the following specific parts of the order titled “DEFENDING WOMEN FROM GENDER IDEOLOGY EXTREMISM AND RESTORING BIOLOGICAL TRUTH TO THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT”.
“(d) The Secretaries of State and Homeland Security, and the Director of the Office of Personnel Management, shall implement changes to require that government-issued identification documents, including passports, visas, and Global Entry cards, accurately reflect the holder’s sex, as defined under section 2 of this order; and the Director of the Office of Personnel Management shall ensure that applicable personnel records accurately report Federal employees’ sex, as defined by section 2 of this order.”
What does this mean for people in reality? Are you going to pull down everyone’s pants and inspect their genitals every time they renew their state ID or passport? Will you be taking blood samples to test their chromosomes? If so, who pays for this? The individual or the taxpayers in general? What about those who are intersex and have mixed genitalia or chromosomes? These statements raise more questions than they answer. Doing these actions to enforce laws based on this executive order will violate the privacy and Bodily Autonomy of people who just want their identification for travel, applying for a job, or even filing their taxes. They should not be required to let someone pull their pants down, let someone touch their genitals, or be forced to give their blood every time they want a passport or just need to pee in a restroom.
“e) Agencies shall remove all statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other internal and external messages that promote or otherwise inculcate gender ideology and shall cease issuing such statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other messages. Agency forms that require an individual’s sex shall list male or female and shall not request gender identity. Agencies shall take all necessary steps, as permitted by law, to end the Federal funding of gender ideology.”
What is gender ideology? I have never heard this term coming from anyone other than those who have not taken the time to educate themselves on transgender and intersex people. What do you mean by ending the federal funding of gender ideology? I don’t agree that there is such a thing as gender ideology, but it sounds like more money will be spent on trying to slap a label on people of either male or female, regardless of the fact that some of us are a combination of both.
Transgender and Intersex people have always existed and will continue to exist, regardless of what any government says or whatever our identification documents say. However, there will be people who have their privacy invaded, and some of them will lose their jobs and ability to travel, and some may die as a result of these policies. Some people have made a great effort to pass as their preferred gender and even have had their identification documents updated with their preferred gender and name already. Additionally, many of them have spent thousands of dollars on hormones and surgery to change their bodies so that they can pass as their felt gender. These people mean no harm to the public, but many people will commit violence against them or fire them from their jobs as soon as they are forced to be revealed as transgender or intersex by laws and policies related to this order.
Some intersex people do not by any measure meet the requirements to be identified as male or female. These people have already obtained an X gender marker on their documents. Whatever you do, please don’t force them to endure genital inspections and chromosome tests everywhere they go. That’s not good government policy. That is just sexual harassment. Clearly, this is also a violation of their Bodily Autonomy.
The second executive order, which I will mention briefly, is the one titled “PROTECTING CHILDREN FROM CHEMICAL AND SURGICAL MUTILATION”. I don’t want to spend too much time on this because that is a post for another day. However, I oppose this because it is already written to ban gender-affirming care for individuals 19 and younger. I can only speculate how long it will be before the next executive order banning hormones and surgery for people of all ages.
I, as an individual, fully support the right of adults to decide what to do with their bodies related to gender-affirming care. Furthermore, I do believe that people under the age of 18 should also have these options in specific cases and that these decisions should be made along with their parents and doctors for practical, legal, and medical reasons. I will expand on this in a future post. For now, know that the executive order is linked in the sources section at the end of this post. But for now, my position is that this is one of those things where transgender people should have a right to decide what they do with their bodies related to gender-affirming care.
Final Notes
I wrote this post because I feel a responsibility to protect the rights of my fellow LGBTQIA people. I am transgender, and I believe these recent executive orders could cause harm to me or other people very much like me. At the same time, I also voted for Donald Trump because I believed he would protect the Bodily Autonomy of those who want to make their own choices regarding vaccines. I am also pleased with his pardon of the 23 prisoners. One of them, Herb Geraghty, is someone I know as a board member of the Rainbow Pro-Life Alliance.
I believe that Trump gets Bodily Autonomy right in some cases but completely misses it in other areas. But the examples I listed are only small samples of why I think we need to be respecting Bodily Autonomy for all people. My statement is that people should have the right to decide what is done with their bodies. However, we should not exclude them because they are not born yet or because they are gay, transgender, intersex, or anything else. Always follow the Golden Rule and do unto others what you would wish done unto you.
Comments from Fellow Friends and Board Members of the Rainbow Pro-Life Alliance:
“Donald Trump’s executive order mandating that there are only two sexes is an attempt to erase intersex, nonbinary, and trans people. Yet his declaration doesn’t change biological reality or the lived experiences of millions. There are 5.6 million intersex people in the United States alone, according to the American Journal of Human Biology. They cannot be defined out of existence. Intersex, trans, and non-binary people are valuable members of our communities and deserve our support.” – Sarah Terzo.
Sources for Executive Orders and General Information on things relevant to this post.
Please send me links if you want something else listed.
Since Donald Trump was inaugurated as President on January 20, 2025, he has signed many executive orders. There are some that I agree with. For example, on January 27, 2025, he signed an executive order which reinstates everyone who was discharged from the military for refusing the Covid-19 vaccines. I consider this a good move because I don’t want anybody to lose their job just because they choose what they will and will not put into their body. I fully believe in bodily autonomy when it comes to a person deciding what to eat, what vaccines to take or not take, and what they wear. Etc.
But there are some other executive orders which can potentially lead to the death of some of my people. These dangers specifically apply to Transgender and Intersex people. Trump has declared that the Federal Government of the United States of America will only recognize two genders, male and female. To the uninformed, this sounds harmless because most people think there are only two genders. But is it true? The answer is more complicated than you think.
There have been many attempts to define what males and females are. This task gets harder to do the more you learn. The simple fact is that intersex people exist who have more than the standard chromosome variations of XX or XY. There are people with XXY, XXYY, and XYY, and some only have a single X chromosome. Defining sex/gender on chromosomes is not reliable and can actually be expensive. I am 37 years old, and I don’t know my chromosome variation, but I suspect XXY, also known as Klinefelter syndrome.
The other way people usually define male or female is by looking at someone’s genitals and then labeling them as male if they have a penis and female if they have a vagina. Usually this is done to newborn babies who are assigned male or female at birth. However, this is also not reliable. Some people are born with more than one set of genitals. But the larger point is that we should let people’s “private parts” remain private.
My primary concerns are the following specific parts of the order titled “DEFENDING WOMEN FROM GENDER IDEOLOGY EXTREMISM AND RESTORING BIOLOGICAL TRUTH TO THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT”.
“(d) The Secretaries of State and Homeland Security, and the Director of the Office of Personnel Management, shall implement changes to require that government-issued identification documents, including passports, visas, and Global Entry cards, accurately reflect the holder’s sex, as defined under section 2 of this order; and the Director of the Office of Personnel Management shall ensure that applicable personnel records accurately report Federal employees’ sex, as defined by section 2 of this order.”
What does this mean for people in reality? Are you going to pull down everyone’s pants and inspect their genitals every time they renew their state ID or passport? Will you be taking blood samples to test their chromosomes? If so, who pays for this? The individual or the taxpayers in general? What about those who are intersex and have mixed genitalia or chromosomes? These statements raise more questions than they answer.
“e) Agencies shall remove all statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other internal and external messages that promote or otherwise inculcate gender ideology and shall cease issuing such statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other messages. Agency forms that require an individual’s sex shall list male or female and shall not request gender identity. Agencies shall take all necessary steps, as permitted by law, to end the Federal funding of gender ideology.”
What is gender ideology? I have never heard this term coming from anyone other than those who have not taken the time to educate themselves on transgender and intersex people. What do you mean by ending the federal funding of gender ideology? I don’t agree that there is such a thing as gender ideology, but it sounds like more money will be spent on trying to slap a label on people of either male or female, regardless of the fact that some of us are a combination of both.
Transgender and Intersex people have always existed and will continue to exist, regardless of what any government says or whatever our identification documents say. However, there will be people who have their privacy invaded, and some of them will lose their jobs and ability to travel, and some may die as a result of these policies. Some people have made a great effort to pass as their preferred gender and even have had their identification documents updated with their preferred gender and name already. Additionally, many of them have spent thousands of dollars on hormones and surgery to change their bodies so that they can pass as their felt gender. These people mean no harm to the public, but many people will commit violence against them or fire them from their jobs as soon as they are forced to be revealed as transgender or intersex by laws and policies related to this order.
Some intersex people do not by any measure meet the requirements to be identified as male or female. These people, including one person that I know and care a lot about, have already obtained an X gender marker on their documents. Whatever you do, please don’t force them to endure genital inspections and chromosome tests everywhere they go. That’s not good government policy. That is just sexual harassment.
The second executive order, which I will mention briefly, is the one titled “PROTECTING CHILDREN FROM CHEMICAL AND SURGICAL MUTILATION”. I don’t want to spend too much time on this because that is a post for another day. However, I oppose this because it is already written to ban gender-affirming care for individuals 19 and younger. I can only speculate how long it will be before the next executive order banning hormones and surgery for people of all ages.
I, as an individual, fully support the right of adults to decide what to do with their bodies related to gender-affirming care. Furthermore, I do believe that people under the age of 18 should also have these options in specific cases and that these decisions should be made along with their parents and doctors for practical, legal, and medical reasons. I will expand on this in a future post. For now, know that the executive order is linked in the sources section at the end of this post.
Comments from Fellow Friends and Board Members of the Rainbow Pro-Life Alliance:
“Donald Trump’s executive order mandating that there are only two sexes is an attempt to erase intersex, nonbinary, and trans people. Yet his declaration doesn’t change biological reality or the lived experiences of millions. There are 5.6 million intersex people in the United States alone, according to the American Journal of Human Biology. They cannot be defined out of existence. Intersex, trans, and non-binary people are valuable members of our communities and deserve our support.” – Sarah Terzo.
Sources for Executive Orders and General Information on Intersex people:
I think trans people should have their own sports leagues separate from men or women.
I do not believe in 72 genders. I believe there are two genders and that I am both of them. I am a checkerboard of the soul containing pieces and squares of male and female. But it was female that won the chess game and led to my transition.
I think drag queen story hour is creepy.
I’m generally “conservative” on a lot of issues politically (including pro-life) with the exception that LGBT people should absolutely be able to marry who they want and gender transition.
I don’t want people jailed for using the wrong pronouns.
Being transgender is a lot less important than my Tetris scores.
I am not trying to be “sexy” just because I like to look good and take better care of myself than I used to.
I will not do SRS surgery because I do not need an artificial vagina and would not use it. Additionally, many other transgender people do not want surgery due to cost and medical problems that can result. All surgery is risky, and people must do research and know what they are getting themselves into.
Transgender is NOT a sexual orientation, nor should T have ever been lumped with the LGB. That said, I love gays and think they have better fashion sense and make great floral designers.
I still use the men’s restroom unless gender neutral restrooms are available and/or I’ve been given direct permission to use the women’s restroom, and everyone is completely okay with it. I stick with the men’s mostly for my own safety because there are people who believe that anyone who looks male is going into women’s restrooms to rape them. They don’t know that I’m no threat to them and they don’t know that I’m physically incapable of any sexual activity because I have no testicles and my penis is always the size of a baby carrot. There have arisen some situations in the men’s restroom, however, because I no longer look like I belong in there either. However, if someone complains of a woman in the men’s restroom, I only need to use my baby carrot dick to clarify the situation.
Chastity White Rose 