Anyone who has watched my videos or read my books and blog posts knows that I am a public person who has no filter. My autism makes it impossible to know how to lie or to guess which information is safe to tell someone and which might offend them or incite violence against me because they don’t like what I say.
My Honesty is my greatest strength but also my greatest weakness. Some people don’t like the truth, and many people blatantly tell me that I should kill myself or that my mother should have aborted me.
Because of the online and offline hatred, threats, and sexual harassment I have received, I have learned to use humor as a weapon. I laugh at myself before others can.
Honestly, it’s fair to make fun of me or criticize my views on any topic. I correct people when they say something about me that is not true.
For example, when they call me a pedophile because I watch My Little Pony or because I am Pro-Life, they say that I have a “Fetus Fetish” and want to rape babies, and that’s the only reason I don’t want them aborted.
It seems there isn’t any logic to the nonsense people say to me. Sometimes, it isn’t easy to deal with the hate, and it gets to me.
I may accidentally offend people by what I say so publicly about myself. A lot of transgender people don’t even like the fact that I refer to myself sometimes as biologically male. I know this, and I don’t even care because someone is always going to be mad no matter what I say or don’t say.
But there is a distinct difference between what I say and what other people say with the intention of offending or damaging someone’s reputation. For example, a co-worker who can’t seem to go a day without making jokes about the size of Donald Trump’s penis. And another one who continually makes jokes about the size of another co-worker’s penis. Such jokes are really gossip and damage a person’s reputation for the sake of distracting others from the fact that the speaker is morally bankrupt.
It’s not about who is talking or who they are talking about. It is the attitude and intention behind it. Even if the people doing this were removed, I can tell you from experience that 95% of men think about nothing but sex, and they brag about the size of their junk. I will tell you one thing, though: having to listen to the horrible things people say about Trump has turned me into a Trump supporter. People say evil things about him to sway others from voting for him.
But people say a lot of false, evil things about me, too. So I don’t take people seriously, especially about politics and sexual jokes about the candidates. All people have said or done something wrong at some point. Instead of making jokes about the size of their body parts, you can criticize what they say or do instead.
I am not for censorship because I need to know what attitudes people have by what they say. If I don’t know what people are thinking by what they are saying, how can I protect myself?
But although I do not believe that people should be banned from social media or sent to jail for what they say, I do know that words can literally kill someone. People can have their jobs taken away or even killed if someone falsely accuses them of a crime.
And we will never know the truth about some things but it’s still important to be careful of what you listen to and the words you speak.
For example, consider the case of Imane Khelif who has been accused of being a man and been the victim of all kinds of controversy.
I actually think some of the controversy is good for society because people are becoming more aware that some women are born with XY chromosomes and that intersex people exist.
However, to this day, we still don’t have definitive proof that Imane is intersex. In fact my personal belief is that she is strong from years of training and that it has nothing to do with chromosomes or hormone levels.
But that is only one example of rumors people start about other people. People spread similar rumors about Lady Gaga, too.
People will continue to say false things about anyone who becomes famous. As Taylor Swift said:
‘Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate
Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it off (hoo-hoo-hoo)
Heartbreakers gonna break, break, break, break, break
And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake, fake, fake
Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it off (hoo-hoo-hoo)
But there is something much more important than even whether rumors and accusations are true or false. Far more important is the relevance.
For example, apparently, J. K. Rowling said some things people don’t like, and so because of this, they are boycotting the Harry Potter books and movies. But that is irrelevant to me. I wasn’t really a fan of the series anyway. My opinion of her art doesn’t change, no matter what she said on Twitter.
And it doesn’t matter if Lady Gaga was a hermaphrodite; I still think her song “Born This Way” is one of the best songs I have heard in my life.
And you know what?
It doesn’t even matter if Donald Trump said a few wrong things about transgender people. I am still considering voting for him if I decide to vote at all just because he doesn’t deserve to have jokes and rumors made about his private parts any more than Imane Khelif or I do.
But you know who does have a small penis? I do, and I am fine with that. But I am qualified to say it because at least it is mine. But the point of this post isn’t actually about any of the people I have mentioned. If there is anything you should remember from this, it is the following:
“Beneath this mask, there is more than flesh. Beneath this mask, there is an idea, Mr Creedy. And ideas are bulletproof!” -V from the movie “V for Vendetta”
You see, the issue at stake for all these people I mentioned is not their body parts (which are none of anyone’s business). And it’s not their political views or their books, music, or whether they have a biological advantage in any sport.
No, what I am suggesting is that people learn to separate the art from the artist. If someone has the right facts or opinions, why should we care what physical mouth spoke it? Why should we care which physical hands wrote it?
Suppose there exists music that I enjoy listening to, and it makes me want to dance. What difference does it make whether it was created by Taylor Swift, Lady Gaga, or Carl Bean or generated by Artificial Intelligence?
Or, to put it another way, don’t judge a book by its cover. Don’t dismiss what someone says because of how their physical body looks but instead the content of what they are communicating.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.
Chastity White Rose 