Chastity White Rose

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  • New Video Podcast Everlasting Love Jeremiah 31:3

    Description

    A podcast by a mother and transgender daughter team discussing difficult topics of religion, controversial Bible passages, mental illness, and the LGBTQIA+ community.

    https://www.youtube.com/@EverlastingLoveJeremiah31-3

    My mother and I started a YouTube channel under her account and recorded our first video to explain what we are starting and what topics we will be talking about. Our goal is to record new episodes on Sundays. She prepares outlines of topics, and I am the technical person to get things recorded and uploaded. For a long time, I have wanted to do videos with my mom, but other problems always got in the way. I look forward to speaking about some of the topics we have planned.

    The following verse is where the name comes for the podcast that my mother chose.

    Jeremiah 31:3 In a faraway land, the Lord will manifest himself to them. He will say to them, ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love. That is why I have continued to be faithful to you.

  • Chapter 14: The Problem With Nationalism

    I understand that Chapter 13 of Walking the Rainbow Bridge has the potential to be greatly misunderstood. It is obvious that I dislike the idea of countries, borders, governments, and citizenship in general.

    When I criticize the United States of America, many people will say: “If you hate America so much, why don’t you move to another country and see how much worse it is!”

    When people say this, what I really hear is: “Yeah, we are not great, but at least we are not as bad as those people over there!”

    And yes, I agree. The USA is not as bad as many places in the world. That misses the point entirely. However, I have my specific problems with the USA government. My issue really is with the concepts of countries and states existing.

    As should be known by anyone who knows something about American history. The USA, as we know it, started as a bunch of white British settlers who came to this land and started their system. However, there were already native Americans here, and these white settlers from Europe killed and/or moved them continually west until the current day, when only a few descendants remain and some live on small reservations.

    As if that was not bad enough, these founders also brought dark skinned enslaved people that they had obtained in Africa. Our history is one of immigrants bringing other immigrants against their will to kill the natives of this land and build an empire that eventually fought to become separate from England.

    The Declaration of Independence, written July 4, 1976, specifies in detail the problems the states had under the rule of the King of Britain and why they wanted the states to be an independent nation.

    https://www.archives.gov/founding-docs/declaration-transcript

    You see, the start of what we know as the United States of America began by criticizing and breaking free from the previous government that the founding fathers had suffered from. The most American thing that can be done is to criticize the government.

    Unfortunately, the Native Americans and the enslaved Black people were not so lucky. They did not have the freedom as citizens of this new land. They were enslaved, beaten, whipped, killed, and chased off the land they had been on for generations.

    This act of destroying the people of the land and taking over is called colonialism.

    https://www.thoughtco.com/colonialism-definition-and-examples-5112779

    The reason I am not a fan of countries is that they almost always involve colonialism and violence at some point. The European settlers were not born in America, yet they all became citizens. The Native Americans were born here, yet they were not treated as citizens and were forced to give up their land, languages, and way of life.

    How then can we say that someone coming from another country to the USA has any more right as a citizen to live and work here? Declaring someone like me a citizen because I am born here, and yet not someone who came from somewhere else, makes no sense.

    That is why I believe in open borders and equal citizenship for all people regardless of country of origin, race, language, or religion. I am against nationalism. I just don’t believe that I am better or worse than anyone because of my birth here.

    But perhaps because American history is what I was required to learn, and because the current USA government is taking away the rights of the LGBTQIA+ people right now, I am quite resentful of the powers that be at the moment, as well as the atrocities done to innocent people in the past. It is therefore why all of my books and blog posts have a tone of anarchism and idealism.

    I want everyone to get along. I know this will not happen and that wars will continually be fought over land, resources, and religions. I hope that we can bridge the gap between people of different places and cultures in the same way that I want to bridge the gap between people who are straight or gay, cisgender or transgender, and sexual or asexual.

    But let me be clear about one thing that must be understood. A state or country is not the same as the people who live there.

    • Americans are NOT the American Government.
    • Chinese people are NOT the Chinese Communist Party.
    • Jews are not the state of Israel.
    • Arabs are not a terrorist group.

    The people are not the land, government, religion, or anything else. Each geographical location contains many different kinds of people, and they should not be lumped together as if they are all the same.

    Just as I don’t want the actions of Rose Montoya to be associated with me just because she and I are both transgender, I don’t want to falsely assume that anyone of a particular identity is evil.

    And in the past, I have made that mistake. I have been hurt by many people who call themselves Christians, and therefore, I do have a prejudice that I use to protect myself. The link between the interpretation of specific bible verses has been used to discriminate and commit violence against gay and transgender people.

    A prejudice is not the same as hatred or anger. However, when you see a snake, your chances of survival are better if you assume it is venomous and get away from it. Sometimes we have to protect ourselves from those we see as a danger. Having a gut reaction of prejudice is not being hateful, but it is being careful.

    What I am saying is that it is important to get to know people rather than letting those prejudices, which protect us in the short term, become something worse that causes us to be the very monsters we assume others to be.

  • Chapter 13: My Immigrant Best Friend

    The subject of immigration is one that I never researched prior to 2025. All my life, I have personally believed in open borders and that we should not have the concept of countries at all. Of course, I know the legal system doesn’t follow my ideals.

    However, as someone born in Merriam, Kansas, in the United States of America, I am a citizen by law even though I did nothing to deserve it. Therefore, I have no moral right to work or live than someone born in another country who comes here.

    But one day, I started a very special friendship with an immigrant at Walmart who came to work there. I started trying to use Google Translate on my phone to translate messages. Most of the time, this wasn’t even necessary because she understands more English than I do Spanish.

    To protect her privacy, I will refer to her as Fiesta because fiesta is the Spanish word for party. Working with Fiesta was always a party because when we worked together, we sang and danced. She even knew most of the English songs I know. Although I had only known her for a short time, I can tell you she was one of the best workers I had ever seen. Nobody else besides me at my store ever worked with such a smile on their face.

    And then one day she told me that her work visa had expired and she could no longer work at Walmart with me. I was deeply sad about this because I will miss her. I hope that she can become a citizen here or that, at least if she returns to her country that she will be safe.

    But based on my reading about this issue, it seems that it is not very easy to become a citizen or even to get a temporary visa status. These rights are limited in number and given only to a small number of people who government officials deem worthy.

    But the news in 2025 about immigrants in American politics has often made me question why people would go to such trouble to enter this country. All I can really say is that if someone’s country they were born is so bad that they want to come here, then I think they should be allowed to.

    But I also think that if immigrants really knew what this country is like, they probably would not want to. They are not treated very kindly by other American citizens. On top of that, many of them may be in great danger in their original country.

    Maybe they did not do anything wrong, but their homes were destroyed in a war. Maybe people are trying to kill them because they are gay or transgender. Maybe they no longer follow the major religion in their country and, therefore, are considered a criminal worthy of death. Therefore, because such situations happen, it is not hard to see why someone may go to another country, legally or illegally, when they have to save their lives. I do not judge them because I have no right to. I don’t know their situation, and I imagine it must be hard.

    Next time you see an immigrant to your country, I would like you to remember this Bible verse. You don’t have to be a Christian or Jew to appreciate this, just know that anyone who claims to follow these religions must also consider whether they are following this law of treating the foreigner the same as a native citizen.

    Leviticus 19:33 When a resident foreigner lives with you in your land, you must not oppress him. 34 The resident foreigner who lives with you must be to you as a native citizen among you; so you must love the foreigner as yourself, because you were foreigners in the land of Egypt. I am the Lord your God.

    The average American citizen knows nothing about the immigration system in the USA. Even I don’t know much, because I have never moved to another country. I guess that most of you probably haven’t either. You just judge people and declare them “illegal”.

    Many other people were also born in the USA. Some of them, I wish I could deport to another country so that they would no longer be here to abuse people they consider less valuable than themselves, based on the chunk of dirt they were born on.

    And to my friend Fiesta, I want you to know that you were always the kindest friend to me at Walmart. You did not treat me as less than you because I did not know your language, or because I am transgender. We danced and sang together, and every night was a party just because you were there. I will remember you, no matter what happens. If there is anyone who has a right to work in any country, it is you.

    Immigration Links

    https://www.americanimmigrationcouncil.org/fact-sheet/why-dont-they-just-get-line/

    https://americasvoice.org/blog/immigration-101-why-immigrants-cant-just-get-legal/

    https://www.flowofhistory.org/the-problem-of-citizenship-in-american-history-2/

  • Chapter 12: Why I Don’t Use the Women’s Restroom

    There is a lot I could say about the never-ending bathroom debate, although it will be ignored. The issue would be resolved if unisex restrooms became the norm, as in one person, one toilet, and one sink. This design was how the restrooms were at the Hy-Vee where I used to work. In fact, originally, they had gendered signs. There were 6 restrooms, and 3 were labeled female and 3 were labeled male. Eventually, they got rid of those signed and replaced them all with unisex signs. There was no point in gendering them because only one person went in at a time, and no one’s privacy was ever violated.

    If businesses took the same method as the Hy-Vee on Rice Road in Lee’s Summit did, there would be no bathroom debate over whether transgender people should be allowed to use the restroom that matches their sense of gender identity.

    This problem is kept alive because society wants an excuse to be hateful to transgender people. I am fully aware of this, and I know that my solution will never be implemented on a wide scale. For this reason, I would like to go a step further and explain why I never use a women’s restroom.

    I don’t use the women’s restroom because I need to protect myself from the women. The worst men could do to me is rape me or murder me when I use the restroom. However, what a woman can do to me is far worse. If I were ever foolish enough to use a public women’s restroom, it would only take one woman in there accusing me of trying to assault her sexually. Of course, it would not be true, but it doesn’t have to be. Either way, someone will call the police, I will probably be arrested and sent to a men’s prison where I will be raped or otherwise beaten by violent men much more dangerous than those in a men’s public restroom.

    I also would experience no benefit to using the women’s restroom. I don’t wish to be around women I don’t know because I can’t trust them not to hurt me. I also don’t want to hear whatever conversations they are having. They are probably complaining about men, and they will see me as an enemy and accuse me of being a man. I don’t wish to deal with that.

    I have used the men’s restroom all my life and I have never even once seen the penis of any of the men there. That is because I am not looking for people’s genitals! Another thing I like about men is that they go in there, pee, poop, fart, or whatever. No conversations, no doing their makeup, and just getting back to working or shopping.

    Although my solution of continuing to use the men’s restroom is quite convenient for me, I completely oppose any law or policy that dictates what restroom people are forced to use. Such laws are impossible to enforce in any meaningful way. Do police have to stand at the entrance of ALL public restrooms and pull the pants down of anyone who just needs to pee? How does this work with people who have had their genitals removed through surgery? What about women who have short hair and therefore look just like men?

    I highly doubt that most people have logically thought about the consequences of trying to legally require people to use the restroom of their “biological sex”. It does not take into account intersex people or transgender men who look like someone who belongs in the men’s restroom because they have been on testosterone long enough to have a beard and a deep voice.

    I am sad that this bathroom controversy exists at all. Still, because it does, I would suggest that both transgender women and transgender men use the men’s restroom unless a unisex restroom is available. I have never once been attacked in a men’s restroom, but I happen to know a cisgender female former manager at Walmart who was attacked in the women’s restroom for the crime of having short hair. Honestly, at this point people are safer in the men’s restroom because even though some men in there may be dangerous, they will probably not be able to tell who they can safely rape or who might be strong enough to kick their butt. They will be less likely to take the risk, especially if they are in a room full of people who look like hybrids, just as I am.

    But regardless of anything I have said here, do whatever is safer in your specific situation and keep fighting for restroom equality! To police who can use which restroom hurts people who are not transgender because many women look like men if they have short hair, are taller, or are muscular because they work out. If you care about women’s safety, you will care about everyone’s privacy as they pee or poop. Using the restroom is not optional, and so everyone should be able to do their business free from harassment.

  • Chapter 11: What the Gay Marriage Debate is REALLY about

    When I was in my early twenties, I heard the occasional mention of gay marriage. At the time, I did not understand why it was a big deal, nor did I have a clue why gay people wanted so badly to be married. I figured that marriages were doomed from the start and that if gay people wanted to be as miserable as straight people, then let them have same sex marriage!

    But that was over 15 years ago, and since then, I have learned so much more in terms of what the debate over marriage equality is about. I can tell you with certainty that it is about money as well as other important rights and privileges that governments only give to married people.

    There are more than 1100 benefits that married couples receive that single people don’t have access to. The following links cover them in more detail than I could ever explain on my own.

    http://www.whymarriagematters.org/pages/protections-and-responsibilities-of-marriage

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201804/unearned-privilege-1000-laws-benefit-only-married-people

    https://www.getlegal.com/legal-info-center/family-law-divorce/marriage/

    I must admit, I was very surprised to hear that there were so many laws that affect married people and that they pay less taxes than single people. I even remember hearing someone in a podcast mention that he only got married for the tax benefits.

    Silly me, I thought that marriage was just a contract of commitment and a ceremony to tell your other friends and family that: “Hey, this person is special to me and I want to spend the rest of my life with them. Anyone who hurts them will get a good old country ass wuppin.”

    I know that my opinion as a Confused Virgin doesn’t count for much on the topic of marriage. However, that raises other questions:

    • Why are married people respected more than single people
    • Why would the government and health insurance companies be so financially invested in making people get married just so that they get financial benefits?
    • Why have these same rights and privileges been denied to people of the same sex who basically live like straight married couples do?
    • And most importantly, shouldn’t marriage be between two people instead of the government and random strangers who get offended about other people’s marriages?

    It seems there is a lot more to this topic, and my thoughts have evolved a lot over the past 20 years. I naturally support gay marriage because I want my Rainbow people to experience these benefits the same way straight people do.

    But at the same time, a part of me says that maybe the idea of legal marriage should be abolished entirely. I think that having the entire legal and economic system forcing people to get married for financial reasons or just to give someone health insurance can lead to dishonesty. People may get married to the wrong person and then have a nasty divorce later, all because they got married for tax benefits.

    But the law is not the only problem. People also respect married people more than single people. If you happen to be a 38-year-old single virgin, people look at you and wonder what the hell is wrong with you that nobody wants to partner with you.

    Moreover, it draws suspicion. After a while, people who should be minding their own business start coming up with their own theories as to why certain people are single and never married.

    But I believe in living a life of honesty, and therefore, I am glad that I did not end up in the wrong marriage. If someone gets married to a person of the opposite sex just to gain legal benefits or to avoid judgment by society for being single, then they may face trouble.

    • A gay man may be having sex with his wife while he is really thinking about his secret gay partner that he would rather be with, if only it were legal.
    • An asexual person may not enjoy sex, but they are afraid to tell their spouse for fear that they will leave them, and they could potentially become homeless without their partner’s income and support.
    • A transgender person may wish to come out and be their true selves. Still, they know that their spouse would certainly divorce them if they did not approve of their transition, or they just could not take the criticism from society for being married to someone who is so hated by most of the population.

    I can tell you, being single gets lonely sometimes, but there are benefits to being single that people who got married at a young age will also never experience. I wish happiness to all the people: gay or straight, single or married.

    Everyone must do what is right for them. At no point should the government or anyone else be rewarding or punishing people for who their partner happens to be, or if they cannot find anyone at all who wants to be with them.