Chastity White Rose

Tag: queer

  • Chapter 8: The Alphabet People

    I refer to the LGBTQIA+ community as the “Rainbow People”. However, that is not what most people know them as. They are most commonly called the “Alphabet People” by those who can’t keep up with what seems to be an ever-growing acronym. It started as LGB for a while, and then the T was added to include Transgender people.

    While being Transgender is not the same as being Lesbian, Gay, or Bisexual, I believe that it was a very good idea to include it in the acronym because first, someone must figure out what gender they identify as before they can figure out whether they are Straight or Gay.

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    LGBT was just fine because it was four letters, did not take long to type, and fit into a 32-bit integer in a computer file. And then it got ruined when the Q was added. Q is often understood to represent “Queer”, which is literally a term for something weird, odd, strange, or unusual. In modern times, it refers to any identity or sexuality that cannot be defined as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, or Transgender but that is still not cisgender and straight.

    Others refer to the Q as someone who is “Questioning” and hasn’t quite figured out what they are yet. The lack of a common definition is part of what makes the Q confusing in the acronym, but I also understand that the idea was to be vague enough to include people not covered by the LGBT acronym. In this sense, it is much like the plus sign is used in LGBTQIA+. It leaves room for further definitions to be included in the umbrella term of Queer.

    I, which stands for Intersex, was added later because it was not for some time that scientists and doctors understood enough biology to know that people are born with mixed chromosomes and genitalia some of the time. Intersex is the only term in the acronym that is specifically about the body of the person being biologically different. Because of this, it can seem like these people should not be included in the acronym. However, I would argue that these people face the same kind of challenges that gay and transgender people face because they face unusual sets of relationship and health problems. Many will also be harassed and questioned by others their whole life, whether they are a man or woman.

    The Asexuals were later added with the letter A in the acronym. Because of the conflicting definitions of asexuality, asexual people rarely have an accurate representation. Some of them literally don’t have sex with people. Others do have sex but only do it to please their partner or for the social and financial benefits that come with having sex with people.

    For more information on asexuality than what I can provide with my experience, I suggest the book “The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality” by Julie Sondra Decker

    I am asexual, but I really feel like most asexual people need to do a better job of educating the public about what they really mean. A little bit less fighting between the sex-positive and sex-negative aces would be great.

    By the way, an ace is a short form of asexual. It is also a playing card in a standard 52-card deck.

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    Sorry, I couldn’t resist making the playing card comparison.

    In any case, you might wonder why the acronym keeps growing and how we can keep up with it. The good news is, you don’t have to. Obviously, people will keep coming up with new words and letters to describe themselves. The point of these labels is to help people outside their community understand who they are. Some people make fun of us because we are referred to as something that they can’t understand or remember. Others will do their best to understand the meanings of these labels as it applies to the person they love.

    Although I have done my best to describe what these terms generally mean when they are used, the best way to really know a person is to talk to that person and ask them questions.

    These terms are also not mutually exclusive. Someone being transgender or intersex does not mean that they cannot also be considered straight, gay, or bisexual. However, at this point, the logic breaks down.

    Suppose a man named Steve is married to a woman named Alexandra because he was taught that he was supposed to marry someone of the opposite sex. Then he discovers that he is unable to have sex with her because he isn’t attracted to her sexually. He loves her personality deeply, but their relationship is never physical.

    Instead, he finds that he is sexually attracted to men, but he is committed to his wife, whom he loves and has known for years. However, Alexandra discovers that she would rather be a man and then does a gender transition. Alexandra becomes Alex, cuts their hair short, takes testosterone for a few years, and looks like more of a man than Steve ever did to begin with. Now Steve is attracted to Alex because they look more like a man, but he always loved the person they were inside anyway. They live happily ever after, except for those who criticize them for being in a gay marriage.

    But the funny thing is that their marriage wasn’t gay at the time but became that way later. I wish Steve and Alex all the happiness in the world, even though I made them up. However, similar stories of real people exist. Sometimes, relationships end because one or both people discover they are not as cisgender or heterosexual as they thought they were when they first met each other. I believe relationships like this probably can only be defined as Queer because no other suitable word for things like this exists.

    The point is that the minds and souls of people are quite fluid. People do not always remain the same in the way they feel, and sometimes they find themselves living a life that was not their choice but instead one that they are in because it was expected by society.

    In this book, I have chosen to stick with the acronym in its current most common form: “LGBTQIA+”. I believe that this is sufficient because the plus sign refers to anything else that is not already included by the other letters.

    Every day, new terms are made up that I cannot pronounce, nor do I know what they mean. I might be part of the LGBTQIA+ community myself, but I am 38 years old, and I still see things very much the same way I did in the 1990s. I believe in two genders, male and female, but I think there is a ratio between them, and some of us are 50/50, 60/40, or 25/75.

    I can’t keep up with all the new terminology, so I can understand why people who are not even part of the LGBTQIA+ community would be quite confused and scared by these people who come up with new words and keep extending the acronym. For all we know, by next year, it could be LGBTQIAROTFLMAOSEXYAFBIDGAF.

    I love and support you, my fellow Rainbow People, but you gotta do better at not scaring people off with all the new terminology so quickly. People have the right to make words, but they must be clearly defined and gradually introduced to the people in your life.

  • Chapter 7: The History of Pride Month

    Many people know that June is considered Pride month, but there seems to be some misunderstanding of the meaning and the history.

    Stonewall Riots

    In the Greenwich Village area of Manhattan, New York, there was a historical event that happened in the year 1969. The Stonewall Inn was a gay bar where gay men and lesbians would hang out. However, at the time, homosexuality was illegal, and so was “cross-dressing”. The police frequently raided bars and arrested people for the sale of alcohol and wearing clothing different than what was considered legal for their gender. One time, when the police came to arrest people for these “crimes” on June 28, 1969, there was such a crowd of angry people that they started fighting the police. This conflict continued for about a week. The police won in the end, but by this time, more and more people were tired of being harassed by the police and unjust laws that forced them into hiding.

    Each year after this event, a bunch of people marched as a reminder of what happened. This holiday was the start of what would eventually become known as Pride Month. The people were proud to be who they were and were done hiding and pretending to dress and behave the way that the majority of society wanted them to.

    When so many people had these events, then people started to see that the LGBTQIA people were not just a tiny minority and they could no longer be bullied without them fighting back. At first, June 28 was known as Gay Liberation Day. Over time, the celebration expanded to include the whole month of June.

    The Two Meanings of Pride

    Some people take issue with the term “pride” because there is more than one definition for the word.

    The first is to generally feel good for being who you are and not be ashamed or trying to change yourself into something you are not. People can be proud of their achievements, and they can be proud of themselves or others.

    The second type of pride is where someone thinks they are better or more important than someone because of whatever they have done or for who they are, even if they can’t take credit for it. This type of pride is what some refer to as the “deadly sin” of pride.

    Strangely, nobody seems to talk about the sin of pride until the subject is LGBTQIA pride. It seems that people are oblivious to their pride for the rest of the year. Most people feel pretty good about themselves. However, the only difference now is that gay, transgender, and other people can also feel good about themselves.

    Parallels to Juneteenth

    Although not directly related, Juneteenth is celebrated on June 19 of every year. This holiday is similar in that it is a reminder of when slavery for black people ended officially on June 19, 1865. On that day, the Emancipation Proclamation was put into effect, ending the legalized slavery of African Americans.

    It is fitting that June contains holidays that are something like “Independence Day” for specific communities that traditionally have not been free in the same way as the rest of the population.

    Although I can’t speak as much about Juneteenth since I don’t know as much about it, and I would prefer to let the black people speak about their own history and pride movement, I would like to remind you once again that the Progress Flag includes black and brown stripes because they are very much part of the progress society has slowly made about accepting different kinds of people.

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    Also, don’t forget that Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, and Asexual people of every race, language, and culture exist. Pride month includes everyone, not just the white LGBTQIA people.

  • Chapter 5: The Population Conspiracy Theory

    While it would be easy to write a chapter for each of the unique problems the LGBTQIA community faces every day of their lives, I want to focus instead on where the hatred and discrimination really stem from.

    Of course, it would be easy to place the blame on religion and say that it is only because of outdated and mistranslated holy texts. This avoids the issue and pushes it back a step rather than questioning why the religions became anti-gay.

    Instead, I propose a new theory that ties the discrimination against Gay, Transgender, and Asexual people.

    Did you know that Asexual people are sometimes raped because people want to “correct” them or because they are seen as a challenge to get them to have sex because they are not interested?

    Indeed, some people dislike Gay, Transgender, and Asexual people for a common reason. This reason is because these groups are the least likely to reproduce.

    • A gay couple of the same sex cannot get anyone pregnant by having sex with the same sex.
    • A transgender person, more often than not, takes hormones that diminish their sexual desire and, in many cases, even has surgery to remove their sex organs.
    • An asexual person is very unlikely to have sex because it doesn’t interest them.

    Because these people don’t reproduce at the same rate as heterosexuals, some people have an irrational fear that the human race will go extinct because straight sex will stop happening. That plot would make a great science fiction movie that won’t happen.

    But I have another theory about this that explains why some people have a financial incentive to keep the population as high as they can. Therefore, they see it as their duty to eliminate anyone who is not heterosexual or cisgender.

    If you think about it, the very rich, especially business owners, benefit by having a large population.

    • More customers means more products sold.
    • More competition for the limited available jobs means employers can always find desperate people willing to work for low wages yet feel grateful for having a job.
    • More poverty and unhappy people lead to more crime. Then they can be killed or jailed to eliminate the “undesirables”.
    • More people means there are more people to tax and otherwise exploit for financial gain.

    If somebody wanted to keep the population high, they would try to do the following:

    • Ban or limit all forms of birth control.
    • Eliminate the LGBTQIA population and promote heterosexual marriage and sex.
    • Ban surgeries that sterilize people.

    Relevant Links about declining birthrates

    I have included some links to stories about how the rich view the declining birthrate.

    https://www.cnbc.com/2021/12/07/elon-musk-civilization-will-crumble-if-we-dont-have-more-children.html

    https://www.businessinsider.com/elon-musk-pandemic-baby-bust-birth-rate-harmful-civilization-demographics-2021-12

    https://www.cnn.com/2025/04/23/health/fertility-rate-cdc-report-trump-pronatalism/index.html

    More research is needed in this area, but the statements of some of the most famous rich people are very revealing. The poor are less likely to reproduce due to a lack of money to take care of themselves, even without children. The rich see a high population as an endless flow of customers and cheap labor. The concerns over climate change are also a concern for many people who don’t see a planet being left for their children to live in if they did bring them into this world.

    Summary

    Because of an interest in preserving the population and/or keeping lots of people here for economic reasons, homosexual, asexual, and transgender people are seen as inherently anti-human because they do not, by nature, create more humans by reproduction. This concern about the birthrate creates a fear in the public that acceptance of LGBTQIA topics to be allowed in society will result in either a decline in population or extinction if people are convinced to become gay or celibate.

    This theory is the only secular reasoning I can come up with as to why such a large portion of the population has not accepted those of us with different sexual orientations or gender identities. However, the religious objections are more often in the spotlight and will be the subject of another chapter.

  • Chapter 4: The Asexual Minority

    Much of the LGBTQIA community has a reputation for being portrayed as more sexual than straight, cisgender people. I don’t believe this reputation is deserved. While we all have similarities in facing discrimination and being different, the letters T, I, and A have absolutely nothing to do with who we have sex with.

    Transgender people identify as a different gender role and prefer different pronouns and names than would be typical of our biological sex. We distinguish the inner feeling of gender from the outer appearance of the body. For example, I have never denied being biologically male, but I just don’t see myself that way. None of this is a sexual statement.

    Intersex people have bodies and chromosomes that sometimes match neither male nor female, according to common definitions. They might be born with more than one set of sex organs, but this does not mean that they use any of them. Some of them do, of course, and that is their business.

    Asexual people are represented by the letter A. Asexual people are the least represented of the group because they either lack sexual attraction to anyone or, in some cases, might be sexually or romantically attracted but lack the actual desire to do anything sexual. It is kind of like being full and not wanting to eat food, even if it is food that tastes good.

    I can speak on this experience because I am asexual in the sense that I never look at someone and think about having sex with them. Instead, my first thought is asking them if they want to play Chess or read any of the books I wrote. I have never really been attracted in a sexual way to anyone.

    There are times when I might be romantically attracted to someone. This attraction means that I might like someone enough to consider whether they would be a life partner like a spouse. However, this remains in the realm of fantasy because it has only happened maybe once or twice after knowing them personally for at least a year. I guess you could say I evaluated them on their personality and couldn’t care less whether they were male, female, or intersex. I will never have sex with them anyway, so I don’t care if they have seventeen penises and 5 vaginas. I just prefer that they keep their pants on and play Chess with me.

    Asexual people are, of course, the minority within the broader LGBTQIA community. In fact, some of the LGB people don’t really accept Asexual people as being one of them. We are sort of divided between the people whose identity is defined by who they would theoretically have sex with. and the Asexual people who don’t have sex with people because the idea doesn’t interest them.

    It is also worth mentioning that transgender people cannot usually engage in sexuality because they have gender dysphoria and are uncomfortable with the parts they were born with. In some cases, their feelings can change if they have surgeries to change their body into something that they feel ok with.

    The main point of this chapter is to explain that, as a whole, you can’t assume that someone is having sex with anyone at all, whether they are LGBTQIA or even if they are straight. Many people have taken a vow of celibacy for religious or ethical reasons. Even more than that, many of them remain abstinent until marriage and prefer to have sex only with their future spouse. Just remember not to assume the sexual feelings or activity of anyone. You don’t know what they are doing, and it isn’t really any of your business unless you are their partner or they have shared something with you for some purpose.

    For example, I have shared more about myself in this one chapter than most people who have known me my whole life. Most of them know that I can play Tetris or Chess. My co-workers at Walmart know that I am good at stocking Frozen vegetables, and those who read my books know that I am a confused virgin who has still not figured out why people are obsessed with sex. But I share this for educational purposes because I am a writer who likes to educate people on the nuances of different parts of LGBTQIA identities so that we can be understood instead of just being a punchline in a movie or TV show while being played by cisgender straight actors who don’t even have a clue what we really act like.